Benny Blanco on Selena Gomez
Benny Blanco reveals that friendship and open communication built his relationship with Selena Gomez.
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Blanco said his friendship with Gomez made the relationship feel easier because she already knew his background and there was an established rapport, comparing the prospect of starting over with a new partner to having to explain “38 years of” personal history.
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Blanco described Gomez as the one person with whom he can be completely vulnerable, saying he can “melt into her arms and cry an ocean of tears” and calling her his rock, best friend and “everything.”
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Blanco and Gomez had collaborated professionally for years on songs including “Same Old Love” and “Single Soon” before confirming their relationship in 2023.
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Discussing his book’s focus on failure, Blanco gave a recent example from his own work: an artist rejected a mix he had completed and asked to redo part of it, which he said was a setback to address rather than a reason to “cry about it.”
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Before becoming romantically involved with Gomez, Blanco said he had been seeking the right partner and believed he was doing something wrong in his relationships; he had also worked with artists including Britney Spears, Kesha and Katy Perry early in his career.
Benny Blanco revealed the secret to his relationship with Selena Gomez: kindness, understanding, and open communication. Speaking on TODAY Show's Sunday Sitdown, the music producer said their years of friendship before dating made the transition easier. The couple married in September 2025 after confirming their relationship in 2023.
Blanco described Gomez as his emotional anchor, saying he can "melt into her arms and cry an ocean of tears" with her. He also promoted his new book, F*ck Failure, which explores how setbacks in his career taught him valuable lessons about resilience and moving forward.
How Friendship Turned Into Romance
Blanco initially didn't realize their dinner together was a date. Their existing friendship gave them a huge advantage over starting fresh with someone new. Blanco said having Gomez already know his "38 years" of personal history meant he didn't have to explain everything from scratch. This foundation made the relationship feel natural and easy to build on.
The two had collaborated on music for years before romance blossomed. Their professional songs together, including "Same Old Love" and "Single Soon," showed they already had chemistry and creative trust. That shared history meant Gomez understood Blanco's work, his world, and his personality long before they became a couple.
Why Kindness Matters More Than Romance Movies Suggest
Blanco emphasized that paying attention and treating Gomez with genuine kindness won her over, according to y94. He didn't try to be someone he wasn't or play games. Instead, he showed up as his authentic self, listened to her, and made her feel valued. That consistency and care became the glue holding their relationship together.
From Setbacks to Strength in His New Book
Blanco's book F*ck Failure draws lessons from his own professional struggles. He gave a recent example: an artist rejected a mix he completed and asked him to redo part of it. Rather than get discouraged, Blanco treated it as a problem to solve, not a reason to "cry about it." This mindset shapes how he approaches everything, including his relationship.
Before finding Gomez, Blanco had worked with major artists like Britney Spears, Kesha, and Katy Perry early in his career. He had also struggled in past relationships, wondering if he was doing something wrong. Now, he credits open communication and vulnerability with Gomez as the turning point that made him understand what real partnership looks like.
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